I Am Confused: Unpopularly Questioning Transgender

Out of cat-like curiosity, I DVR'd the premiere of I Am Jazz on TLC the other night in order to learn the answer to my question: Is this child an anatomical anomaly that was given a special choice of what gender they wanted to be, unlike most kids?

The answer: No, the kid is not an anatomical anomaly; they were born a boy and felt like a girl inside, and the parents allowed them to become a girl with the assistance of modern medicine, sans orchiectomy. In other words, Jazz has a penis. Question answered -- it's a boy!
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However, this has opened the door in my mind to a stream of hypothetical questions which I do not intend to be in bad taste or hurtful, but sincere, honest questions that deserve consideration by those who choose to consider them. 


At what point do parents say 'no' to kids?

At what point do doctors say 'no'? (some said no)

If a doctor agrees to help in such an undertaking, hypothetically due to their personal bias, is that doctor using his best professional medical judgment, or are his personal feelings creating a conflict of interest because they sway his professional judgment; and if so, is that dangerous?

If the frontal lobes, which help process right-and-wrong/cause-and-effect relationships, do not develop until later in the teen years, is a child under the age of 18 (for argument's sake) mentally capable of understanding the long term implications and consequences of choosing to change gender and go against their given anatomical body structure?

How would a straight guy react to a 'girl' when the guy finds out the 'girl' has a penis?  (Vice versa: how would a straight girl react to a 'guy' when the girl finds out the 'guy' has a vagina?)

If a 'girl' is perfect in every way that a straight guy desires, would it matter if the 'girl' had a penis?

How would a straight girl react to a 'girl' with a penis in the girls' bathroom/changing room?

Does the straight girl have a right to be uncomfortable with a 'girl' having a penis in the girls' bathroom/changing room?

How confusing is it for little kids to be told someone is a 'girl' and the 'girl' has a penis?

How confusing is it for people of any age to be told someone is a 'girl' and the 'girl' has a penis? 

If people have the right to be a 'girl' with a penis, do people also have a right to be confused and uncomfortable by a 'girl' with a penis?

If the transgender is a 'girl' with a penis, how come they do not introduce themselves as a 'transgender girl' when meeting new people; in other words, why are they hiding what they are from people -- specifically a transgender -- and leading people to think they are a 'girl' in the conventional, anatomical sense when they are not?

At what point is a transgender deceiving potential mates by not letting it be known what they are? 

At what point would a straight guy feel deceived by not knowing the 'girl' they are trying to pick up is a transgender girl?

While I agree with my statement that if you have nothing to hide you're boring, I do question what is an individual's relative level of acceptable matters to be hidden from potential mates: natural hair/eye color, religion, finances, legal issues, voting preferences, sexual kinks, favorite cocktails, Dungeons and Dragons obsession, genitalia below that is the opposite of what is represented above? 

Does insurance cover hormone replacement and necessary surgeries; and is this what some people think 'healthcare' coverage is meant to be used for? 

If I Am Jazz is supposed to be a replacement for The Duggars, how is it better; specifically, since Josh Duggar is viewed as hiding his juvenile record from the public, how is it better to highlight a person who hides their natural being behind hormones and medicine?

What makes a transgender 'girl' with a penis who likes boys different from a crossdressing homosexual?

Even if a transgender feels female inside and a homosexual does not, for the person meeting the 'girl' with a penis, how does a transgender expect themselves not to come off looking like a lying, crossdressing homosexual? 

If a girl were dressed in a cop uniform and they weren't a cop but they had a penis, would you be confused? 

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Photography as Shorthand

If a picture is worth a thousand words, then photography is the ultimate in shorthand efficiency. 
Granted, those thousand words can be left up to broad, varying interpretations, so it is not a perfect shorthand system.
However, as I learned from my work as a professional stenographer in the American legal system, black and white text can equally be left up to broad, varying interpretations. 

So, there you go.
The past few years I have gravitated towards photography, more than writing, as my preferred form of self-expression.
While I love to write and have been writing for as long as I can recall (I remember learning to write my name!), sometimes I feel that no words can capture what I want to express; and sometimes I don't want words to capture what I need to express. 
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Hey, Hey, Hey: It's a Marilyn Monroe Quote Mashup with Monica Lewinsky and Bill Cosby!

This Marilyn Monroe meme showed up in my Facebook feed:
It got me to thinking:
Marilyn Monroe got it on with John F. Kennedy, a President of the United States, and she is adored the world over.

Monica Lewinsky also got it on with a President of the United States, Bill Clinton, and she is not adored the same as Marilyn Monroe.

So, why is it that Marilyn Monroe is adored and Monica Lewinsky is hated, even though they both were 'the other woman' to married men, and Presidents at that?
(Answer: Double standards.)

And, if quotes attributed to Marilyn Monroe are viewed as inspirational, would they be equally inspirational when paired with Monica Lewinsky photos?
(Answer: The awesomeness is uncanny!)
I mean no offense with my Monica/Marilyn mashups.
My intent is to get people to look at something in a different perspective and maybe, possibly, peek outside the box that blocks the light. A girl can dream, right?

Real or not, I find these quotes to be inspiring paired with Monica Lewinsky, more than with Marilyn Monroe, mainly because of what she has lived through.

I do not and cannot pretend to imagine what Monica Lewinsky personally went through during the entire Blue Dress incident that ended up becoming what it became.

How would you handle it if it were you:
The attention, the threats, the interviews;
the immense disgust/hatred/etc. that absolute strangers have for you when they judge you without knowing you?

Would you live through it?
I suspect not everyone would.
That is why I admire Monica Lewinsky for surviving it.

It is so easy to say:
I would not have done what she did and she brought it on herself.

I used to say that too.
But that is bullshit.

Everyone makes mistakes.

The difference is that not everyone recovers from their mistakes.
More power to those who recover and to Monica Lewinsky.

So, then it got me to thinking more:
Would inspirational quotes attributed to Marilyn Monroe work when paired with anyone else who has become condemned in the Court of Public Opinion?

(Answer: Hey, hey, hey, they do!)
Again, no offense intended.
Only an intent to offer a different perspective and an enlightening laugh.

When it comes to Bill Cosby's innocence or guilt in regards to the rape charges, I offer three words of wisdom from Tommy Lee Jones in The Fugitive:
I don't care.

My personal bias is on Team Cosby no matter the outcome;
I have been entertained and educated by him for so long and from such a very young age (remember Picture Page on Pinwheel, anyone?) that I will not desert him as a fan.

Bill Cosby has never harmed me personally, so why should I condemn him? The legal battle is the accusers' battle, not mine, and I refuse to be swayed by them or the Court of Public Opinion.

It is eye-opening to see people instantly side with accusers that they do not know, nor have been entertained by, nor educated by, nor have they been a part of people's lives if only by making them laugh and think. I know who I do not want sitting on my jury, should I ever need one.

Please, don't forget:
Chuck Berry videotaped women in bathrooms and had IRS problems, yet people still rock out to his music today.

This, too, shall pass.

But should any of these people be role models:
Marilyn Monroe, Monica Lewinsky, Bill Cosby?

People are free to admire, and be inspired by, who they want and for whatever reason they want.

Admiration (and inspiration) is in the eye of the beholder.

Where one person will see good, another person will see evil.
Where one person will find humor, another person will find offense.
Where one person will say 'Spam', another person will say 'I don't like Spam!'

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Runner's Log: My Unorthodox List of 50+ Running Don'ts and Dos for Runners and Non-Runners

It excites me when I get a sale in one of my online shops -- wow, somebody found my creation out of all the others and bought it! -- but the Runner's Log journals in my ProseAndPix Zazzle shop excite me in an extra special way.

The reason is because I see a sale of a Runner's Log as empirical evidence that someone is out there running, pushing themselves and bettering themselves (or giving it as a gift for someone who will be doing such things); and that makes me happy to know someone is bettering themselves; and now my creation gets to be a part of that betterment process and that is a totally awesome feeling, to know that my creative prowess is helping inspire good rather than evil. Or so I like to think.
Therefore, in recognition of another Runner's Log journal being sold (thanks, buyer!), I have created my own unorthodox list of running don'ts and dos for runners and non-runners alike to learn from and enjoy.

  • Don't be a jerk
    • Non-runners: this means not throwing objects from vehicles at runners or assaulting/harassing runners in others ways. In general, please do not do this to anyone as you are the one who looks like a dick, not the other person.
  • Don't be harmful/hazardous to others
  • Don't belittle others 
  • Don't listen to haters
  • Don't compare yourself to others
  • Don't compete with elite athletes if you are not one
  • Don't doubt yourself
  • Don't be nervous or scared
  • Don't bitch about the hill
  • Don't push yourself to the point of immobility (unless you have a team of doctors taking care of you)
  • Don't set unrealistic goals
  • Don't overlook opportunities to run somewhere you have never run before
  • Don't support running clubs or stores that don't support you
  • Don't volunteer with running groups that don't support you
  • Don't act entitled on the roads or to handouts at races
  • Don't depend on others to have supplies for you when it is your responsibility to have your own supplies
  • Don't wait until the last minute to show up for a race
  • Don't stand where you don't belong in the starting line-up
  • Don't hate on the weather
  • Don't let gadgets run your run
  • Don't forget why you run
  • Don't look back unless you plan on going that way!

  • Breathe
  • Stay hydrated and fueled
  • Be courteous
  • Smile
  • Be creative
    • make obstacle courses out of pay meters, street signs, water hydrants, benches and more!
  • Stretch as needed
  • Walk or slow down as needed
  • Enjoy the scenery
  • Encourage fellow runners
  • Get out of the way for faster runners
  • Be careful around traffic
  • Look where you are going
  • Be seen -- wear bright colors and reflective gear!
  • Tell someone where you are going
  • Carry ID and mace as needed 
  • Try something new -- routes, running partners, races!
  • Rest and recover
  • Be confident in your abilities at any level
  • Support running clubs and stores that support you
  • Volunteer at race events and with running groups that support you
  • Say 'Thank You' to the race workers, volunteers, organizers and sponsors
  • Prepare yourself to be as self-sufficient as possible on long runs and at races
  • Sign up for races as early as possible to save money
  • Exercise your PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) 
  • Revel in your runner's high
  • Find your zen
  • Have fun
  • Keep going
  • Record your training runs, race stats, goals and PRs
  • Buy a Runner's Log journal designed by Eve!
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Peer Pressure vs. Racism: The Real Reason People are Blacklisting the Rebel Flag

In an instant life can change. Something that was once present without question is suddenly gone with the wind and you are left in a whirl wondering 'Hey, what happened?'

While popular consensus is that censoring a symbol from American history is a solution to a momentary problem brought on by someone who committed a heinous crime, I only see it as a reactionary measure equal to blacklisting trench coats because of the Columbine High School shooting, or banning music because kids killed themselves while listening to it, or stopping all sales of the Dixie Chicks albums because they spoke out against President Bush (before everyone else did). 

In other words, people who are choosing to voluntarily blacklist the Rebel Flag now, in 2015, are not taking a stand against racism. Blacklisting the flag at this point is nothing more than basic grade school peer pressure as it is being done to save one's face when confronted by the herd.
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Case in point: Why is it that when the Dukes of Hazzard movie came out in the last decade, Willie Nelson and Jessica Simpson weren't being called racists for starring in a film with a theme associated with the Rebel Flag? How come people didn't have to hide in shame for being associated with the flag then, and why are people voluntarily blacklisting it now out of shame...and does this mean that wearing Daisy Dukes is a sign you're a racist?

Is this truly all because of one person who committed a heinous crime? Wow. If that is the reason, talk about willingly giving that person a lot of power over one's own emotions and rationale.

Is self-control really that rare these days? Must be.
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Applying the same logic as is currently being used on the Rebel Flag, consider these hypotheticals: What if a person who committed a heinous crime had a picture of themselves wearing a Justin Bieber shirt, or a pro-breastfeeding shirt, or a Save The Whales shirt? Would those things become demonized in the public's eyes and blacklisted as well? If not, then why is the Rebel Flag being demonized?

And heck, what if someone went into a movie theater and killed a bunch of people during a film's midnight premiere; should that film no longer be allowed to be shown?

Does this line of logic and questioning make sense to anyone? 
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Does anything about blacklisting the Rebel Flag make sense to anyone...other than peer pressure to political correctness and groupthink mentality?

Anyone else remember learning about peer pressure? The feeling that you must conform to the crowd when you do not want to and you must do what the crowd is doing even if you do not want to, in order to be accepted by the crowd.

Because if you are not accepted by the crowd you may be shunned, called names, beaten up, sued, or possibly killed...all because you dared to be you.
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Kind of funny that so many people who claim racism is terrible are simultaneously putting pressure on people to conform to society's momentary standards and to do things they do not want to do out of fear of being rejected, sued, and possibly harmed.

Now that is terrible. 
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