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A: Cook for him!
Granted, women don’t have to cook for their men or serve them with love or even make them happy; in reality, women don’t have to do anything they don’t want to do, according to the Popular Mantra of American Women which hasn’t changed since the 1970s, the decade of my birth.
However, not cooking for a man may result in him going to restaurants, where he will pay waitresses to serve him in a more hospitable manner than his wife does, while they give him attention which could easily make an insecure wife jealous, even if the attention is only for a monetary tip.
But that only leads to the economic reality that another woman (the waitress) will make money from the man, when that money could help his wife and his own home for the better rather than helping a waitress who is paying for school tuition, or raising kids without a husband, or paying off her financed boob implants, or just playing the field for tips and hooks-ups because she knows how to play the game that the wife is losing.
At least that’s what I witnessed firsthand behind the scenes as a $6/hr restaurant hostess back in the 1990s; and I know it hasn't changed because the game never changes, only the players do.
Now that I'm a stay-at-home bookkeeping housewife, I fully recognize the shocking cost difference between eating at home and eating out; and I see two extreme errors when women choose to not cook for their men at home:
First, the financial impact of money leaving the home is likely to harm the wife since she depends on the husband’s finances for home management and paying bills.
Second, the home environment is likely to suffer when the husband and wife don’t work together to help each other, like the partners they agreed to be when they entered into their legally-binding marriage contract; a legally-binding business partnership works in similar ways in that the partners have designated roles and they must fulfill their responsibilities in order to be successful.
A husband helps his wife by working hard to bring home reliable money; and a wife helps her husband by having home taken care of and food prepared for him when he needs it, rather than being away at a job taking care of strangers while leaving her husband to fend for himself in a messy home after a hard day of work.
If a bread-winning wife wouldn't tolerate a disobedient house husband, a bread-winning husband equally should not tolerate a disobedient housewife who needs to learn to appreciate the importance of her position in the balancing act that is a stable household; but I digress.
When the husband and wife help each other in unison, it creates a positive cycle that lets the husband and wife continue to do what they do best in order to help each other and secure their future -- and the wife won’t have to worry about losing money or her husband to a flirty waitress who would be better off at home serving her own man if she had one.
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| Act Like a Wife, Think Like a Waitress | Memes by Eve @ imgflip |
And isn't that the grandest irony of all -- women will serve strangers and strange men for money but act as if they are too empowered to serve their own husbands whom they claim to love. As if!
Having served both strangers and my husband, and knowing the difference between the two, I will always choose to serve my husband who loves me over serving strangers who pay women to do their bidding, which actually sounds more regressive and degrading than being a housewife to a loving husband.
And just for the record: Coffee stands are no different than a restaurant, only smaller with different menus.
Women can keep money in their homes and their men away from bikini 'baristas' by making coffee at home, which is always better than what gets served in the stands. Do you even know when anyone last cleaned the machines that your favorite coffee drinks get made in, which is where bacteria and nasty contaminants can grow if they aren’t cleaned regularly?
Better yet, do you even know how much money your household spends on coffee stands, dining out, and groceries for the home each month? A successful business would have to know its spending habits in order to stay in business; likewise, a household should know its spending habits in order to become a successful household.
I encourage anyone who doesn't track daily spending habits to start keeping track to learn how much money is actually spent and what the money is spent on; without knowing where the money goes, it makes it even harder to figure out how to change spending habits; crawling comes before walking, and knowing how money gets spent must be known before figuring out how to change the way it's spent.
Therefore, make it a homemaking goal to keep your man (and yourself) healthier and wealthier with food lovingly prepared at home as only a wife can do, along with a heaping helping of regular bookkeeping, and don't forget his favorite coffee, too. That's how you act like a wife and think like a waitress!
PS -- I am all for capitalism, making money, supporting businesses, and enjoying a night out for dinner; however, when the money spent outside the house isn't helping the household for the better and is only making life at home worse, that means the home's economic well-being is under attack and the spending habits must change or all hell will eventually break loose, as I have experienced myself and witnessed numerous times as a court reporter in bankruptcy and divorce proceedings; but you don't have to take my word for it.
I have been tracking our spending habits for over two years now which helped me find financial losses that brought about a career change for my husband with a bigger paycheck; we are no longer in a hole each month or scraping by paycheck to paycheck, we put money into savings with each paycheck, we have an actual physical on-hand emergency fund established which we have never had before, no more accidental overdraft charges, dwindling debt, and stabilized spending -- and it all started with tracking our spending habits.
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